It’s one thing to take your baby on a long car ride.
It’s a completely new nightmare to enclose your infant in 2×2 space and tell him he can’t move for several hours while sitting in a capsule with hundreds of complete strangers.
Strangers who all seem poised to mark up some “Parent Evaluation Form” the flight attendants must pass out when you land.
It’s nerve wracking.
Today we’re going to go over the 10 “rules” for flying with a baby that will boost your confidence. (Imagine that! Flying with a baby AND feeling confident in your parenting… Who knew?)
Flying With a Baby Rule#1:
Choose Your Containment Method
You’re going to be easily distracted in the airport: checking luggage, finding gates, going through security, avoiding bulldozer-businessmen…
So take my advice: Contain that child.
Holding hands with your toddler is fun for the park. It’s an Amber Alert nightmare at the airport. Scary.
Remove that worry by choosing your containment method ahead of time.
Contain the Cuteness in a Car Seat
You have 3 options to store the car seat during the flight:
- Use it on the flight in an empty seat.
Ask the flight attendant before boarding if you could move next to an empty seat and use it there.
- Purchase an extra seat next to yours.
There’s no guarantee there will be an empty seat you can use. Purchasing another ticket removes the gamble. (Btw, the FAA requires all children over 2 to have their own seat.)
- Check the car seat for free as baggage.
This, of course, means you’re going to hold your baby through the entire flight. I highly recommend getting an infant flight vest. It secures your baby to your lap so you don’t accidentally drop her during turbulence.
Contain the Cuteness in a Stroller
Usually you can use the stroller right up until boarding, wheel it down the jetway and then leave it before boarding. The flight attendants will stow it away and then set it out there again when you leave.
Still, here are some things to remember:
- Don’t be in love with your stroller. Not every flight attendant will be as careful with it as you are.
- Bring a bungee cord from home to tightly wrap it up and secure it together. This prevents accidental opens that can cause damage during flight.
- Take everything out of the stroller baskets!
Contain the Cuteness in a Baby Carrier
The final “containment” option is to carry your baby in the world’s most comfortable (and non-back-aching) baby carrier.
It frees up your hands for necessary airport tasks and will keep your infant close to you during the flight, when unexpected turbulence can cause nasty boo boos.
Contain the Cuteness with a Safety Harness
For toddlers, the car seat/carrier/stroller option may not work. In this case you’re left with holding a slippery little hand or using a safety harness.
I call a spade a spade…so let me just say that these do in fact put your toddling baby on a leash. (We’ve all seen them, you know what I’m talking about.)
Some people have strong reactions about the “toddler leash”, but really I think you should use whatever you think would help you keep your child close to you in a busy area. And sometimes that means a cute little monkey backpack with a line attached.
Judgers gonna judge.
Let them feel self-righteous, and then move on knowing that your #1 job is not to make them approve of your mothering, but to make sure that little Houdini stays safe by your side during the entire trip.
What do you think about using safety harnesses? Share your thoughts with me in the comments!
Flying With a Baby Rule#2:
Pack Yesterday & Get There Early
I realize this is rather a yawner of a tip.
Still, I have to mention it because you’re freaking tired and you’ll forget. (We’ve all been there.)
Pack up ev-er-eee-thing the day before, so that all your fuzzy-brain has to remember is to GRAB THE BABY.
Then plan on arriving several hours in advance. Not only will it take longer than you expect to get all your gear where it needs to go, you will probably be subject to more security checks. Here’s more TSA help straight from the horse’s mouth.
Sometimes, if you ask nicely, the TSA will let you cut to the front of the security line. If your TSA agent isn’t taking the hint, try batting some Kardashian-like false eyelashes or, in an emergency, weeping and wiping snot on their sleeve. This will move you ahead faster than you can say “postpartum hormones.”
If you’re going to bring any liquids onto the plane (formula, breastmilk, water, juice, medicine, etc.) let the TSA agent know right away. They will need to triple check your bank balances, look into your great-grandfather’s 2nd cousin once-removed’s criminal records, and get a hair sample off your pet (to test for nuclear residue) before you can board.
As for your stylish appearance…wear shoes you can easily slip off and skip the jewelry – you may have to take it all off and put it all back on – which is a pain in the tushie, especially when you’re corralling kids.
Flying With a Baby Rule #3:
When In Doubt, Stuff with Food
Few things will quietly comfort your baby during a flight like nursing, suckling a bottle, or snacking on a few Cheerios.
When it comes to flying with a baby, all feeding schedules should get tossed out the air shaft without a parachute.
So make sure you’ve packed a Snack Attack Sack. (Try saying that 3 times fast…)
- Sliced fresh fruits and veggies – with a baby food feeder to prevent choking
- Pre-mixed formula or thawing breastmilk – check out this no-electricity-needed bottle warmer
- Cheerios or instant-dissolving puffs stored in organized stacks
- Baby food inside this brilliant no-mess spoon
- And don’t forget to pack a few wipeable bibs with sleeves to protect that cute vacation outfit!
Flying with Baby Rule #4:
Prepare for Ear Pop-age
As the plane lands and takes off, the air-pressure in the cabin is going to change drastically.
As adults, we can yawn and chew gum to pop our ears. Babies can’t. They need our help. Give him a pacifier during the take-off/landing portion of the flight. Don’t feed your baby so well before the flight takes off that he doesn’t want to suck during takeoff!
If he’s not a binky-fan, let him drink a bottle or sippy cup. The sucking movement of moving the lower jaw down, will stretch the ear canal and help the ears pop.
Flying with Baby Rule #5:
Prepare for Diaper Poop-age
In the last few minutes before boarding, change your baby into…
- An overnight diaper that’s more absorbent
- A diaper that’s one size LARGER than what he usually wears (again, more absorbent)
- TWO diapers, with the first diaper slightly cut so it can drain into the 2nd diaper
Any of these options should help him last a little longer than usual (hopefully until you land!) without having to do a diaper change.
That said, there’s always the ornery child who seems to wait until you’re 30,000 feet in the air to drop a diaper bomb that reminds everyone in the cabin you’re traveling with a baby.
Considering that the airplane bathroom only gives you 4 cubic feet of movement, I recommend having a mini-diaper changing kit prepped and ready to grab-and-go. Inside it, you should have…
- Changing pad to try to create a surface somewhere
- Diaper (preferrably a super-absorbent one mentioned above)
- Wipes (5-10)
- Hand sanitizer
- Diaper Rash Cream in a snack-size ziplock – my favorite is Bottom Balm
- A bag to take the stink-bomb with you – Arm and Hammer to the rescue
The mini-kit is an absolute lifesaver, because it prevents having to take the entire diaper bag into the
Flying with Baby Rule #6:
Heaven is a Well-Stocked Toy Bag
Since you can’t let your baby toddle up and down the aisle (yes, please don’t), it’s vital that you have a plethora (nod to The 3 Amigos) of toys and activities to keep him busy. Here are some of my favorites:
The Wonderous Quiet Book
The Quiet Book is any book that has activities already built into the book that baby can fiddle around with. The idea is, since they are so intrigued by the zips, buttons, shapes, and flaps in the book, they end up being…brace yourself…quiet.
Here’s a few I found across the web:
- Right at Home Cloth Quiet Book
- Peek-a-Boo Forest
- Alma’s Designs Quiet Book
- Touch-and-Feel Wild Animals
- I Spy Felt Quiet Book (Warning: expensive, but stunningly well-made.)
- Full Felt Quiet Time Book (Also expensive, but so cool I want to play with it.)
For those readers who are whizzes with a needle and thread (I envy you. Really.), check out the Quiet Book Blog to download a free template of Mr. & Mrs. Potato Head and make your own!
Mom’s Magic Bag of Distractions
Here are a few other things you may want to stash in your “magic bag of distractions”.
- Scotch Tape ~ Make a loop with the sticky side out. Trust me. He’ll be fascinated, trying to take it off. (Make sure he doesn’t eat it!)
- Teething toys ~ My post on teething remedies has a few toys and relievers you’ll find interesting!
- Fun baby apps for your phone or tablet ~ This is a great sanity-saving baby app list by Gizmodo.
- Some Post-It notes ~ Again, the pull-off-and-stick adventure is addicting.
- Crayon Rocks ~ They don’t need to be sharpened, fit perfectly in baby’s palm, and are the perfect distraction for a long flight.
- A calculator ~ Buttons she can actually push!
Round & Round & Round It Goes
This is a simple hide & seek game you can play with a palm-sized ball, crayon rock, or rattle.
Round and round and round it goes…
Where Mommy/Daddy/Baby hides it…
(slip inside sleeve, or under baby’s pant leg, etc.)
(baby pulls out item, plane rejoices…repeat until bored)
This is a great skill for babies who are beginning to learn something called “object permanence” – that something still exists, even when they can’t see it. They can lift up the blanket and it’s still there!
Additional Sit-Still Developmental Toys
For more don’t-move baby toys that can boost those brainwaves mid-flight, check out my “Best Baby Toys” post. Nothing distracts a baby more than a brand new toy!
Flying with Baby Rule #7:
Bring Bribe Bags
Your baby isn’t going to be perfect.
She’s a baby.
Which means, despite your snacks, cuddles, toys, and smiles, it’s very possible she will give the middle finger to everyone on the plane and cry the whole way anyway.
Such is life.
This is why it’s so important to dabble in a little plane politics. *hehehe*
What is the first thing people think when they see a young child on an airplane?
That’s right: “Uh oh.”
My husband has a favorite saying: “Whoever gets to it first, wins.” In other words, whoever can acknowledge the problem first, has the opportunity to change how people think about that problem.
So, address the “elephant in the
room plane” head-on. Give the people sitting around you Bribe Goodie Bags filled with candy, earplugs, and a cute little apology note from your baby. (Like this one at Team Eddy or this one at How Does She.)
This will immediately lay their fears to rest by letting them know that you are aware they’re on the plane too.
It gives them confidence that you have a plan to help your baby, and even if he starts to cry, you’re doing your very best. Most people will reward your thoughtfulness with extra votes of grace.
Flying with Baby Rule #8:
Divide & Conquer When Possible
If you’ve only got one child, split up the duties between parents. Have one parent handle the logistics and guide the path through the airport, and the other be on “kid duty”. If you’re traveling with several small children by yourself, see if a grandparent or friend could come along with you.
Flying with Baby Rule #9:
Listen to Other “Been-There,
The Incredible Infant Facebook Page asked experienced mom-flyers to share their favorite tips. Here’s what they suggested:
I have flown with both my babies multiple times now. I never really had too much trouble. I would say try to have someone going with you. I’ve done it both ways but, having someone to help is greatly appreciated. Specially since you have to hold them.
~ Robyn Lennie
If its an airline that doesn’t do assigned seats like Southwest ask if the flight is full. If it’s not you can bring the car seat on board with you. I was able to stick the seat next to me and stored items in it so that it was easier to grab like the paci, toys and a blanket. This way I didn’t have to reach down by the feet for them.
~ Courtney Reilly
I’ve tried: Fly at nap time and nurse/feed while you’re waiting to take off if it’s a baby. Nurse or paci or bottle/sippee cup on descent (ear pressure tricks). Pretoddlers/toddlers – we read a book about traveling on a plane, watched Bubble Guppies “Gup, Gup & Away” that teaches all about planes & flying, and had a travel kit of new toys (a magnets set, travel color wonder kit, and kindle fire w/earphones).
~ Megan Kaiser Mueller
I flew when he was 2 months, and I purposely picked a flight time that was after his lunch and during his prime nap time.
~ Amanda Ashour
Flying with Baby Rule#10:
Know Your “Mom Value”
Here’s the last thing I want to leave you with today.
Your value as a mother isn’t decided
by strangers on an airplane flight.
Following these unwritten rules are more for your confidence and your sense of peace during traveling, than for anyone else.
Before you walk through the gate and the “fun” begins, remind yourself that you’re a good mother.
What happens at 30,000 feet, stays at 30,000 feet.
If your baby goes bezerk and people are annoyed, oh well. You’ve done your best, you’re holding, rocking, singing, shushing, doing all your baby needs from you. You’re being a good parent.
Life is full of uncomfortable moments. In the span of eternity, your little “disaster flight” is a teeny-tiny blip on the timeline.
Good or bad, determine to not feel ashamed or guilty, but to do your best and then learn whatever you can from the experience. Even if that’s “no flying until they’re 20.”
Share what you’ve learned below so other flight-fearful parents can benefit from your experience!!