The Breastfeeding Mom’s Mega Resource Guide

Are you breastfeeding?

Who knew such a short question could command so much of a mom’s self worth?

Breastfeeding tips

It’s worth the try. Absolutely.

Pressure to breastfeed…

Pressure NOT to breastfeed..

It’s a hot mess of guilt.

Some moms pick up breastfeeding tips like it’s part of their DNA.  Nursing perfectly (pain free) hours after birth.

And then there’s the other mothers.

The mothers who have to work at it.  Who struggle with it.  Who weep about it.

They feel like absolute failures.  (At least I did.)

Is that you?  Do you feel like you’ve failed your first test of motherhood?

Don’t give up…yet.  Yes, at some point it may be best to throw in the nursing rag and pick up some formula.

But not yet. 

The Best Breastfeeding Tips Begin with a Game Plan

Let me help you figure this out.  (I’m more rested than you are.)

Let’s start with asking a few questions.

If you answer “I don’t know” to any of the questions below, take a minute to read the article I have linked.

Each one provides you with easy-to-follow steps, videos, graphics, anything you might need to make breastfeeding easier.

Do You Even Want to Breastfeed?

The whole “Breast vs Bottle” debate has become a shouting match. One that I don’t honestly feel like participating in.

So here’s something a tad different…Politically Incorrect Guide to the Great Breast vs Bottle Debate.

Do You Understand the Mechanics of Breastfeeding?

Just because you have boobies doesn’t make you a breastfeeding expert.  It’s a skill that has to be learned and practiced.

Brush up on the basic know-how in A Guilt-Free Guide on How to Breastfeed.

While you’re starting out, be sure to read the articles mentioned above and this wonderful comprehensive breastfeeding guide from Smart Mom.  It’s easy to follow and FULL of great help for the just-starting breastfeeder!

Do You Know What a Good Latch Feels Like?

It only takes a single bad breastfeeding session to bring a good nipple down.  Do you know how to quickly determine if you’re on that path?

My 8-question quiz helps you evaluate every latch to ensure perfection.

Take it in Confessions of a Good Breastfeeding Latch.

How Are Your Nipples Holding Up?

Being a self-declared wussie, the cracked and bruised nipples I earned breastfeeding my second was a nursing death wish.

Fortunately for you, someone taught me the breastfeeding tips to get them healed as quickly as possible. 

Tricks that I’m happy to pass on to you inside Cracked Nipples…BEGONE!

Are You Comfortable When You Nurse?

When I started writing online about babies in 2007, I was shocked to discover a simple breastfeeding position that I had never been taught.

One that I’m convinced would have prevented those sore nipples in the first place.

I’ll reveal it to you in Shhh…A Secret Breastfeeding Position.

Give Yourself a Deadline

If your baby is a newborn and your milk hasn’t come in, dedicate yourself to four weeks of effort.   

If your milk is already flowing, give yourself a quitting deadline of two weeks.

Just a few weeks. 

If, after following my breastfeeding tips for a few weeks, you’re still feeling the same sense of hopelessness…give it up.


You heard read me correctly.

If you tried for a few weeks and it’s not getting any better, stop breastfeeding.

No guilt.

No “bad mommy” feelings.

True, breast is best for babies.

  • Except when it starts to affect your marriage.
  • Except when it’s an additional weight against your desperate struggle against post-partum depression.
  • Except when you’re starting to harbor resentment towards that little ALWAYS hungry little person. (Repeat after me: I am not a milk cow.)

Those relationships are the cornerstone of a healthy growing family.  If your attempts to nurse your baby are compromising those things, leaving you emotionally handicapped, it’s time to find a good formula.

As a social worker (and mother who breastfed and used formula) let me tell you, formula feeding your baby doesn’t make you a bad mother. 

Failing to feed the baby at all makes a bad mother.

That said, breastfeeding isn’t something you can go back to.  Once the door closes and your breasts stop producing, it’s really hard to get them going again.

So why not try this amazing once-in-a lifetime opportunity and use these breastfeeding tips while you still can?

If you’re reading this in a developing country,I would strongly urge you to breastfeed.  Mixing non-certified formula with non-squeaky-clean water is a fast way to get your baby seriously sick.

So what pearls of wisdom would you share with a struggling breastfeeding mom?  Type them in the comments!

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  1. I agree with so much of your advice but on this topic I disagree. Telling mothers to quit breastfeeding? Terrible advice.
    Formula opens doors to so many problems. You think breastfeeding affects your marriage, try a sick baby. Formula causes intestinal bleeding, diarrhea, allergies, reflux and increases the risk of SIDS among an endless list of other horrible things.
    Formula is artificial milk. I think your advice is harmful and irresponsible. I really hope no mother takes this advice.

    • I’m a big fan of breastfeeding, and breastfed my babies AND fed them formula. My purpose is to encourage parents to make the decision that is best for them. They are welcome to hear my thoughts and discard them, as you did, or mull them over. Either way, the choice is in their hands. 🙂

  2. Katie King says:

    Thanks so much for sharing this! My LO is about 8 1/2 months, and I’m just now finally accepting that I did the right thing for him by switching to exclusively formula feeding. We both had a lot of struggles with breastfeeding, and although in retrospect, I wish I would have been more patient with myself and not given up so quickly, I know I made the best decision I could at the time. He has done just fine on formula, with little tummy troubles, so I would have to disagree with the doubters. I know b is best, and I would have continued if I thought I could, but my little man is so happy now that I just focus on providing as much stimulation and healthy interaction as I can! I also found that holding his face with the same hand as the bottle during feeds and looking into his eyes creates a greater bond, and we’ve also been co-bathing since he was very little, which has been the most amazing experience! Thank you for sticking up for us moms who had to switch to formula to be the best moms we could for our kiddos.

    • Danielle Miller says:


      I can tell from your words that you love your little guy! He is so blessed to have you as his mommy! Keep up the loving, caring mothering, dear mom!

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